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Nine Things Successful LEADERS Do Differently

May 16, 2012 by Heidi Grant 3 Comments

Very few people can say that they are a truly great leader in every sense of the word.  Chances are good that you are a terrific leader in some respects, and could use a little help in others, and you aren’t really sure why you can’t seem to master the whole package. The intuitive answer – that you are born blessed with certain leadership skills and talents, and born lacking in others – turns out to be, from a scientific standpoint, utterly wrong.
Decades of research on achievement paint a very clear picture: Successful people (including successful leaders) reach their goals not because of what they are, but because of what they do.  You can learn to give feedback that motivates, create work environments that bring out the best in your team, and more effectively reach your own goals while teaching your employees how to reach theirs – but only if you have the right information to help you get the job done.   Here are nine simple and scientifically-proven strategies you can use improve your game.
#1   Successful Leaders Get Specific.  Very Specific. 
Whether you are setting yourself a goal, or assigning a goal to a member of your team, try to be as specific as possible.  “Increase sales by 10% in 2012” is a better goal than “increase sales,” because it gives you a clear idea of what success looks like.  Knowing exactly what you want to achieve keeps you motivated until you get there.  
Specificity is also important when it comes to giving feedback. Make sure you provide clarity not only about what needs improvement, but also what exactly can be done to improve.  When you are a leader, helping your employee figure out how to do it right is just as important as letting them know what they are doing wrong.
#2   Successful Leaders Seize the Moment to Act on Their Goals.  Given how busy most of us are, it’s not surprising that we routinely miss opportunities to act on our goals.  Did you really have no time to check in with your team today?  No chance at any point to return that email requesting guidance?  Achieving your leadership goals means grabbing hold of these opportunities to be a great leader before they slip through your fingers.
To seize the moment, decide when and where you will take each action you want to take, in advance.  Again, be as specific as possible (e.g., “If it’s Friday, then I will check in with each member of my team before lunch.”) Studies show that this kind of planning will help your brain to detect and seize the opportunity when it arises, increasing your chances of success by roughly 300%.   Whenever possible, encourage your employees to use this same technique to execute their own projects as well.
#3  Successful Leaders Know Exactly How Far They Have Left To Go.  Achieving any goal also requires honest and regular monitoring of your progress.  You need it, and your team needs it.  If you don’t know how well you are doing, you can’t adjust your behavior or your strategies accordingly.  And research shows that we lose steam when we don’t have a clear sense of how far we are from the finish line. Check your progress (and theirs) frequently – weekly, or even daily, depending on the goal.  Encourage the members of your team to monitor their own progress, too.
#4  Successful Leaders Are RealisticOptimists. When you are setting a goal for yourself or your team, by all means engage in lots of positive thinking and talking about how likely you are to achieve it.  Believing in our ability to succeed is enormously helpful for creating and sustaining motivation.  But whatever you do, don’t underestimate or play down how difficult it will be to reach the goal.  Most goals worth achieving require time, planning, effort, and persistence.  Studies show that thinking things will come easily and effortlessly leaves you and your employees ill-prepared for the journey ahead, and significantly increases the odds of failure. 
#5  Successful Leaders Focus Their Team on Getting Better, Rather than Being Good.  Believing you have the ability to reach your goals is important, but even more important is believing you can get the ability.   Many people believe that their intelligence and other aptitudes (e.g., social skill, creativity) are fixed – that no matter what they do, they won’t really ever improve.  As a result, they focus too much on proving themselves, rather than developing and acquiring new skills. 
Fortunately, decades of research suggest that the belief in fixed ability is completely wrong – abilities of all kinds are profoundly malleable. Encourage your employees to see that they can change, and that it takes effort and experience to reach your fullest potential.  (This means allowing them to make mistakes when trying something new or particularly difficult. Improvement takes time.) People whose goals are about getting better, rather than being good, take difficulty in stride, enjoy their work more, and turn in the most impressive performances.
#6 Successful Leaders Have Built Their Willpower Muscle
As you’ve probably already noticed, successful leaders need a lot of self-control.  (Incidentally, research shows that employees are also more likely to trust a leader who seems to have a lot of self-control.)  Your self-control “muscle” is just like the other muscles in your body – when you give it regular workouts by putting it to good use, it will grow stronger and stronger.
To build willpower, take on a challenge that requires you to do something you’d honestly rather not do.  Give up high-fat snacks, or stand up straight when you catch yourself slouching.  As your strength grows, you can take on more challenges and step-up your self-control workout.
#7 Successful Leaders Don’t Tempt Fate
No matter how strong your willpower muscle becomes, it’s important to always respect the fact that it is limited, and if you over-tax it you will temporarily run out of steam.  So don’t put yourself in harm’s way if you can help it.  If, for instance, you are already exhausted from a long day of putting out fires, don’t respond to the irritating email from your most difficult employee – you will probably say things you will wish you hadn’t. Many people are overly-confident in their ability to resist temptation – like the temptation to call your employee an incompetent doofus – and as a result they put themselves in situations where temptations abound.  
#8  Successful Leaders Focus on What They Will Do, Not What They Won’t Do
Do you want to improve your team’s communication, increase productivity, or put a lid on your bad temper? Then plan how you will replace bad habits with good ones, rather than focusing only on the bad habits themselves.  If you want change the way you or your team does something, ask yourself, What will I (we) do instead?
For example, if you are trying to gain control of your temper, you might make a plan like “If I am starting to feel angry, then I will take three deep breaths to calm down.”  Or if you want to improve communication, don’t just say “We can’t continue to keep key information to ourselves” – figure out exactly how you will all get the information where it needs to go.  By coming up with replacement behaviors, bad habits get worn away over time until they disappear completely.
#9 Successful Leaders Have Grit
Grit is a passion for, and commitment to, long-term goals – something leaders certainly in abundance.  Studies show that gritty people obtain more education in their lifetime, and earn higher college GPAs.  Grit predicts which cadets will stick out their first grueling year at West Point.  In fact, grit even predicts which round contestants will make it to at the Scripps National Spelling Bee.
The good news is, if you aren’t particularly gritty now, there is something you can do about it.  People who lack grit, more often than not, believe that they just don’t have the innate abilities successful people have.  If that describes your own thinking …. well, there’s no way to put this nicely: you are wrong.   As I mentioned earlier, effort, planning, persistence, and good strategies are what it really takes to succeed.  Embracing this knowledge will not only help you see yourself and your goals more accurately, but also do wonders for your grit.
This article appeared in the May edition of Leadership Excellence, and was adapted from The Nine Things Successful People Do Differently, HBR’s most-read blog post of all time.

Quit. Do It Now.

January 11, 2012 by Heidi Grant 12 Comments

This article appeared originally in the Wall Street Journal Online (www.wsj.com)

A few years ago I was – like some of you reading this – overextended, overworked, and deeply unhappy about it. I was a young psychology professor desperately seeking tenure, with two toddlers at home and a husband whose work kept him away for days at a time. I exercised once a week on a good week, rarely saw my friends or extended family, and couldn’t remember the last time I’d read a book that wasn’t about statistics.
It was just too much. Something had to give. And it did. I left my job, not knowing exactly what I was going to do next. It was the toughest decision I’ve ever made, but it was also one of the best.
As a psychologist who studies motivation, I spend a lot of time trying to figure out why people give up too soon when trying to reach a goal. But the truth is, a lot of us suffer from the opposite problem: not knowing when, or how, to quit. We take on too many projects and commitments, and end up turning in 10 mediocre jobs instead of one or two stellar performances.
To be sure, quitting a job may not be an option for many, but most of us surround ourselves with plenty of unofficial projects that may not be worth pursuing.
So, why is it so hard to throw in the towel, even when on some level you know you should? For one thing, it’s embarrassing to admit to others that you’ve bitten off more than you can chew, or that you’ve made an error of judgment. No one likes to be thought of as a “quitter.” For another, quitting means contemplating the sunk costs – all the time and energy that you’ve already put into reaching your goal that you can never get back.
Of course, once you realize that you probably won’t succeed, or that success isn’t worth the unhappiness your project is causing you, it shouldn’t matter what the sunk costs are. If your job, your advanced degree, or your unfinished novel has taken up some of the best years of your life, it doesn’t make sense to give them even more years. That will only make you miserable.
But that doesn’t make walking away any easier. So here’s a simple game plan for cutting your losses.
At the outset:
– Figure out which goal has to go. It might be obvious, but most of the time it won’t be, so you’ll need to really give some serious thought to your priorities. What matters most to you? And, just as important, what makes you feel effective and fulfilled? Anything that doesn’t, might need to get the boot.
– Be confident. You’ll want to know that you are giving up your goal for the right reasons, so ask yourself these two questions:
(a) What do I need to reach this goal, and can I get what I need? Look at the whole picture. If successfully reaching this goal means more time and effort than you can spare without sacrificing other important goals, you may need to walk away. (Maybe you can’t work 50 hours a week, spend time with your kids, and write that screenplay, and that’s OK.)
(b)Will reaching this goal cost me too much? Will it make me unhappy? Sometimes the problem isn’t limited time and energy, it’s that you really don’t like what you’re doing as much as you thought you would. You find the process of reaching the goal boring, frustrating, or unrewarding. Circumstances change, and it’s OK for your goals to change too.
Once you’ve made up your mind that quitting is right move:
– Stop dwelling on the past. When regrets about sunk costs creep into your thinking, have a replacement thought ready, one that focuses on everything you gain from walking away and moving on. (Example: If I feel guilty about giving up on my unfinished novel, then I’ll remember how good it feels to have more time on the weekends with my kids.)
–       Replace the goal with one that does work for you. To keep yourself moving forward and feeling satisfied with your choice, give some thought to what you will do instead. If you just don’t have the time to write a 600-page novel, is there some other way you could express your thoughts and creativity that you do have time for, like blogging?
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Learning to know when to fold ’em is essential for your well-being, and ultimately for your personal and professional success, too. When you can give up on a goal that isn’t working, you’ll be freeing up the valuable resources you need to make the most of the goals you do pursue – the ones really worth pursuing.

Use Motivational Fit to Market Products and Ideas

December 22, 2011 by Heidi Grant 5 Comments

by Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. & Jonathan Halvorson, Ph.D.
Every marketer knows that people want more good things – good products, experiences, and ideas – and want to avoid bad ones.  What they may not realize, however, is something that research psychologists have known (and kept mostly to themselves) for over two decades: there are two fundamentally different kinds of good.  Tailor your message to match the kind of “good” you are selling, and you can increase consumer trust, message believability, engagement, and perceived value.  Mismatch, and your message falls flat.  So, what kinds of “good” do people want?
Some people tend to see their goals as opportunities for gain or advancement.  In other words, they are focused on all the great things that will happen for them when they succeed – the benefits and rewards. Psychologists call this promotion motivation, and research shows that promotion-minded people are more energized by optimism and praise, more likely to embrace risk, seize opportunities, and excel at creativity and innovation.
Others tend to see their goals as opportunities to avoid loss and to stay safe.  They don’t want to lose what they have worked hard to achieve, and they worry about all the terrible things that might happen if they make a mistake. Psychologists call this prevention motivation, and the prevention-minded are more driven by criticism and the looming possibility of failure than they are by applause and a sunny outlook. Prevention-focused people are more risk-averse, but their work is also more thorough, accurate, and carefully planned. 
It’s not just people who have different motivational focuses – products, activities, and ideas can have them too. Some are obvious: seat belts, home security systems, and mammograms are essentially about avoiding loss (prevention), while vacation homes, lottery tickets, and facelifts are about potential gains (promotion).  Others can be either promotion or prevention-focused, depending on how you talk about them.  When toothpaste is about a “whiter smile,” it’s a promotion product.  But when it’s about “avoiding cavities,” it’s all prevention.
You can more effectively market a product if you tailor your message to fit the motivational focus of the product or the audience you are aiming for.  There are several ways to achieve a motivational fit, but the one that has been most frequently studied is the use of gain versus loss framing.
Promotion motivation makes us more sensitive to, and influenced by, information about gains.  Studies show that people with a promotion focus (or people considering a promotion product or idea) are more deeply engaged when a product is described in terms of benefits.  The same holds true for prevention motivation when descriptions emphasize avoiding loss.
Engaged customers reliably ascribe more value to the product in question, as demonstrated by changes in attitude, behavior, product enjoyment, and spending.  In other words, people will pay more for a product – sometimes much more – if you describe their choice in a way that fits with their motivation.
The nuances in description can be subtle. If you are selling cars, you can choose to talk about “better mileage” (promotion) or “lower fuel costs” (prevention).  You can emphasize the “bonus” features customers get if they buy the Limited Edition, or what they’d be missing out on if they didn’t buy it.  If you are offering a loyalty program at your coffee shop, should you offer 10% off each cup, or tell them that after buying nine cups they get one free? What the customer gets in the end may be the same, but how they get there – through the promotion-focused strategy of seizing opportunities to gain (e.g., better mileage, bonus features, a free cup of coffee) or the prevention-focused strategy of avoiding losses (e.g., high fuel costs, an inferior product, having to pay full price for their morning joe), can be the difference between psychological night and day. 
Knowing which version will be more effective for your audience, for your particular message or product, is the key to finding fit. For example, when Welch’s Grape Juice was described in an advertisement as energy-enhancing (a promotion product), potential buyers rated the brand more positively when the ad was gain-framed (“Get Energized!”) than when it was loss-framed (“Don’t Miss Out On Getting Energized!”).  But when the juice was instead described as a source of antioxidants that prevent cancer and heart disease (a prevention product), the loss-framing (“Don’t Miss Out on Preventing Clogged Arteries!”) was more effective than gain-framing (“Prevent Clogged Arteries!”)
Similar results have been found for other products, including sunscreen, vitamin supplements, toothpaste, and gym memberships. Teen anti–smoking ads and messages advocating social policy issues (e.g, funding after–school programs) were more effective when they were designed with motivational fit.   In one study, people ate 20% more fruits and vegetables after reading about their benefits in messages framed to fit their dominant motivation. In another, promotion- and prevention-focused participants paid 50-70% more for a mug that was gain or loss-framed, respectively.
To create motivational fit, you always want to keep both the qualities of the product andthe motivation of your audience in mind, particularly when you are trying to position a particular product to a target population.  Age is one indicator of how someone is generally motivated (along with culture, occupation, and a number of other demographic variables.) Younger people are, on average, more promotion-minded, and are drawn to opportunity. They are more likely to value the possibility for growth, advancement, and creative expression.  They are also more comfortable with risk, and more likely to engage with a product or idea when it is gain-framed.
Older adults, on the other hand, tend to be more prevention-minded – they are looking for a safe bet.  They want reliability and security.  They want to protect what they’ve earned.  They are, on average, less comfortable with risk, and more likely to engage when you use loss-framing.
Motivational fit is a powerful, and largely overlooked, tool of influence.  When you tailor your message with promotion and prevention motivations in mind, your audience will like it more, and trust it more.  They will find your arguments more convincing, or your story more compelling.  And if you are selling something, they will value it more, and be willing to pay more for it.   Best of all, they will be more satisfied with their decision to endorse your idea or purchase your product – which makes motivational fit a tool you can feel genuinely good about using.

The Trouble With Bright Kids

November 22, 2011 by Heidi Grant 14 Comments

It’s not easy to live up to your fullest potential.  There are so many obstacles that can get in the way:  bosses that don’t appreciate what you have to offer, tedious projects that take up too much of your time, economies where job opportunities are scarce, the difficulty of juggling career, family, and personal goals.  But smart, talented people rarely realize that one of the toughest hurdles they’ll have to overcome to be as successful as they might be lies within.   
People with above-average aptitudes – the ones we recognize as being especially clever, creative, insightful, or otherwise accomplished – often judge their abilities not only more harshly, but fundamentally differently, than others do (particularly in Western cultures).   Gifted children grow up to be more vulnerable, and less confident, even when they should be the most confident people in the room. Understanding why this happens is the first step to righting a tragic wrong.  And to do that, we need to take a step back in time.
Chances are good that if you are a successful professional today, you were a pretty bright fifth-grader.  You did well in several subjects (maybe every subject), and were frequently praised by your teachers and parents when you excelled.
When I was a graduate student at Columbia, my mentor Carol Dweck and another student, Claudia Mueller, conducted a study looking at the effects of different kinds of praise on fifth-graders.   Every student got a relatively easy first set of problems to solve and were praised for their performance.  Half of them were given praise that emphasized their high ability (“You did really well.  You must be really smart!”).  The other half were praised instead for their strong effort (“You did really well.  You must have worked really hard!”).
Next, each student was given a very difficult set of problems – so difficult, in fact, that few students got even one answer correct.     All were told that this time they had “done a lot worse.”  Finally, each student was given a third set of easy problems – as easy as the first set had been – in order to see how having a failure experience would affect their performance.
Dweck and Mueller found that children who were praised for their “smartness” did roughly 25% worse on the final set of problems compared to the first.  They were more likely to blame their poor performance on the difficult problems to a lack of ability, and consequently they enjoyed working on the problems less and gave up on them sooner.
Children praised for the effort, on the other hand, performed roughly 25% betteron the final set of problems compared to the first.   They blamed their difficulty on not having tried hard enough, persisted longer on the final set of problems, and enjoyed the experience more.
It’s important to remember that in Dweck and Mueller’s study, there were no mean differences in ability between the kids in the “smart” praise and “effort” praise groups, nor in past history of success – everyone did well on the first set, and everyone had difficulty on the second set.   The only difference was how the two groups interpreted difficulty – what it meant to them when the problems were hard to solve.  “Smart” praise kids were much quicker to doubt their ability, to lose confidence, and to become less effective performers as a result.
The kind of feedback we get from parents and teachers as young children has a major impact on the implicit beliefs we develop about our abilities – including whether we see them as innate and unchangeable, or as capable of developing through effort and practice.  When we do well in school and are told that we are “so smart,” “so clever, “ or “ such a good student,”  this kind of praise implies that traits like smartness, cleverness, and goodness are qualities you either have or you don’t. The net result: when learning something new is truly difficult, smart-praise kids take it as sign that they aren’t “good” and “smart,” rather than as a sign to pay attention and try harder.
[Incidentally, this is particularly true for women.   As young girls, they learn to self-regulate (i.e., sit still and pay attention) more quickly than boys.  Consequently they are more likely to be praised for “being good,” and more likely to infer that “goodness” and “smartness” are innate qualities.  In a studyDweck conducted in the 1980’s, for instance, she found that bright girls, when given something to learn that was particularly foreign or complex, were quick to give up compared to bright boys – and the higher the girls’ IQ, the more likely they were to throw in the towel.  In fact, the straight-A girls showed the most helpless responses. ]
We continue to carry these beliefs, often unconsciously, around with us throughout our lives.  And because bright kids are particularly likely to see their abilities as innate and unchangeable, they grow up to be adults who are far too hard on themselves – adults who will prematurely conclude that they don’t have what it takes to succeed in a particular arena, and give up way too soon. 
Even if every external disadvantage to an individual’s rising to the top of an organization is removed – every inequality of opportunity, every unfair stereotype, all the challenges we face balancing work and family – we would still have to deal with the fact that through our mistaken beliefs about our abilities, we may be our own worst enemy.
How often have you found yourself avoiding challenges and playing it safe, sticking to goals you knew would be easy for you to reach?  Are there things you decided long ago that you could never be good at?  Skills you believed you would never possess?  If the list is a long one, you were probably one of the bright kids  – and your belief that you are “stuck” being exactly as you are has done more to determine the course of your life than you probably ever imagined.  Which would be fine, if your abilities were innate and unchangeable.  Only they’re not.
No matter the ability – whether it’s intelligence, creativity, self-control, charm, or athleticism – studies show them to be profoundly malleable.  When it comes to mastering any skill, your experience, effort, and persistence matter a lot.    So if you were a bright kid, it’s time to toss out your (mistaken) belief about how ability works, embrace the fact that you can always improve, and reclaim the confidence to tackle any challenge that you lost so long ago.

Can You Be Damned By Strong Praise? Understanding Innuendo

November 7, 2011 by Heidi Grant 1 Comment

We all know how easy it is to damn someone with faint praise.  When you describe a coworker as “not completely useless,” or a potential blind date as “decent enough looking, I guess,” other people understand immediately what you are really saying.  Faint praise is generally used intentionally, to send a message.  And that message is:  steer clear of that one.
Why don’t we just come out and say what we really mean?  The short answer is that  there is an awful lot of social pressure to avoid directly criticizing other people.  Studies show that people who “bad mouth” others are viewed very negatively.  (Gossipers very much included – lots of people like to hear gossip, but they rarely like the person delivering it.) 
As the saying goes, “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all.”  Faint praise is a great way to get around that particular problem – you get to technically say something nice, knowing that you are really saying something very different.
But what if you say something that isn’t just technically nice, but is actually nice – something genuinely positive?  New research by psychologists Nicolas Kervyn, Hilary Bergsieker, and Susan Fiske suggests that you can still inadvertently send a negative message, even when you say only unambiguously positive things – a kind of “accidental” innuendo.  The reason has everything to do with context.
When you are describing someone, people (largely unconsciously) expect you to mention aspects of personality or character that are relevant to the situation you are in.  In other words, if you are describing Bob to a potential employer, she will expect you to talk about Bob’s competence – is he hard-working, reliable, innovative?  If, on the other hand, you want to bring Bob along to a party and you are describing him to the hostess, she will expect you to talk about Bob’s warmth – is he engaging, funny, easy to get along with?
When you violate those expectations – when you focus on Bob’s warmth in the context of work, or praise his competence in a more social setting, new studies show that people draw very negative conclusions (even though, technically, you had only good things to say).  They assume that since you aren’t addressing what you should be addressing, you must be doing it intentionally.  What you aren’t saying leaves the biggest impact.
For instance, in one study, “Pat” was described as either “nice, outgoing, and sociable,” or “smart, hard-working, and competent”  Participants were asked to evaluate Pat as either a potential employee or as a fourth member of their travel party across Europe. When Nice Pat was judged in the context of travel-buddy, the overall impression was highly positive.  But when Nice Pat was judged in the context of work, he/she was rated very negatively.  Participants assumed that since no one mentioned Pat’s most relevant attribute – competence – that Pat must be a very nice doofus.
The key to avoiding unintentional innuendo is to really think about context when you are weighing in on someone’s good and bad qualities.  You might think that your friend’s best quality is his terrific sense of humor, but if that’s what you focus on when speaking to a potential employer, you may cost your friend a job.  Take the perspective of the person you are speaking to – what do they want to know about Bob?   Focus on the most relevant attributes, and you are more likely to leave the impression you actually intended.
Check out my new HBR eSingle Nine Things Successful People Do Differently (an expanded version of HBR’s all-time most viewed blog post)  (only $3.19 on Amazon!)

My New HBR eSingle “9 Things” Is Available Now!

November 1, 2011 by Heidi Grant 5 Comments

HBR Singles is a new line of e-books created by Harvard Business Publishing, and I am so thrilled to have authored their very first Single!
It’s based on my HBR blog post, Nine Things Successful People Do Differently, which remains their most-viewed blog post of all time (over 1.5 million views and counting.)  The eSingle offers much more detail about each of the nine “things,” including simple, easy-to-implement instructions for putting it all into practice.  It’s available for download today (Nov 1st) for $3.19 over at Amazon.

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